Sometimes what is more important in conflict than winning the battle is to learn the battle. Rather than approaching conflict in war attitude, reflecting the incident can yield more benefit.
In conflicts that are triggered by other’s behaviour or attitude, we can choose to learn two things. The first is to focus on the unpleasant actions made by the other. We can learn how troublesome is that person. The second is to focus on sensitive or personal area in our heart that was trespassed by the other. By reflecting this, we learn to know ourselves better and probably find ways to avoid another conflict in the future.
While the first is very interesting especially when we are still angry, the second is more precious to be unearthed in our contemplations.